What does forty years of marriage feel like? Well I can tell you that it went by in a blink of the eye. There are ups and downs. Things don’t always turn out as planned, but somehow we got through it. There are dreams that had to be put on hold and then tossed aside as no longer realistic. There were new dreams to be made that tried to fill the void that the old dreams left. Don’t get me wrong they were good. However nothing replaces the dreams of youth when everything was possible. I have a few regrets but many, many more joys in life.
Would I do it all over again? Yes, with one caveat. Only with this man at my side. We did not always agree with the mind of an artist versus the mind of science and logic. Although deep down our core values were the same.
We were over joyed to have 2 beautiful and thoughtful children. They are as different as night and day. They loved us and most importantly each other. They learned to work together as only siblings can. They did, in my opinion, grow up much too fast. In their opinion not fast enough. They were strong and confident enough to follow their own dreams and path in life. I am so glad that they allowed us to be part of that life. It is a great privilege to be able to call them our children. They both took us on great adventures. I think the adventures that they took us on were some of the best adventures in our lives.
Life as newlyweds was awesome. Then on to children. Then balancing our core family 4 was very time consuming. Each child with their own diverse needs. That was a very hectic period in our lives. Then caring for some of our elders which made life even more hectic. It literally took me years to dig myself out of that overwhelmed time of life.
Now as we contemplate the next forty years together we still have plans and places to go. Try to keep up with us if you can. We do know that the best of life is yet to come.
