More Socks

Yes, I am still zenning the house.  This is yesterday’s sock haul from Bookman’s NW. Five pairs of socks for the Flowing Wells School District Clothing Bank. I am really grateful that I can turn my house decluttering into something very useful. I really like the Yoda socks.

The Vulture

I am going to start off by saying that since Eric’s passing we as a family have gotten a huge out pouring of kindness from around the world. To this I am very grateful for everyone taking time out of their busy lives to send a note, give hugs and bringing over food and flowers. I also want to take the time to give a special thanks to those who helped us through the first hours of grief with your visits. I just don’t have the proper words to express how grateful we feel as a family. You are the people who will be shocked by this blog post...

I got a call yesterday and this is boiled down to the basics, not word for word.  You will understand the title of the blog after you read this..I want to Reiterate to those mentioned above that this does not apply to you. The call went something like this as I remember it.

Hi, I am the Vulture ( I can’t remember  her name), I heard your son died. My partners and I want to buy your house. How soon can you be out.

I replied that the house was not for sale.

Really how soon can you be out of the house.  Sorry for the noise I am feeding my dogs.   When are you moving?

I replied not for another 20 or 30 years.

All right I will call back then.

No where in the call did she give the name of the company that she was associated with. Not once did she mention the broker who supervised her.  At no time did she say I am sorry for your loss.  She was single minded in her goal to get us out of the house just 9 days after Eric passed.

This just brings out the angry mom in me.  I have her telephone number and can track her down and find out where she works and let their corporate office know that this is unacceptable behavior.. Then to work with the governors off to make sure other grieving members don’t have to deal with these calls.

Most of all I would like to wish her karma.

I Really Said This

This morning I can't believe I used the line, "but my daughter is a lawyer" when someone got a little too "I am feeling sorry for you because your son is in an adult day program. I am very lucky that Eric is in an adult day program. There is a nationwide shortage of adult day program slots across the country.  I am very lucky that my local JCC cared enough about our family to create an adult day care program that Eric can go to and hang out with his friends.

Now I want everyone to know that I Love my children equally and am very blessed to have both of them in my life. They have each taken me down a different path in life. They have both taught me about life in their own way. I am very grateful that they let me come along for the ride.

It has not always been an easy path. I feel that at times I was not the best at my job of mom. I might not have given it my all to both Teri and Eric all the time. We manage to muddle through it somehow. We are a close tight family so I know that I did somethings right.

So I would like to say, Thank You to Teri and Eric for giving me a chance to be your mom. I would also like to say Thank You, to John for joining me in this adventure.

The Small Things in Life

Sometimes it is the smaller things in life that I am most grateful for.  Take yesterday for instance.  We managed to get to the monthly local vendor fair at Whole Foods. We walked around inside the store and tried some samples.  Then we had lunch at the in store bar.  We got to listen to some great music while we were eating lunch.  

Then it was a little shopping and we headed home a lot more relaxed.   As I said before it is the small things for which I am grateful. 

Being Grateful for Life

It is almost 2 am as I start to write this blog post. Eric is having a very bad night and I can not seem to get him to go to sleep. But as hard as some nights are I find that I must be very grateful for all that I have in my life.

I am grateful for an understanding husband who provides everything we need.

I am grateful for my daughter and her independence. She will change the world for the better.

I am grateful for the ability to do laundry in the middle of the night, while the house is cool. It might not get folded right away but at least it's clean. Thank you power and water company for reliable service.

I am grateful for my knitting, the ability to take bits of string and make warm clothing items for those who are not as lucky as we are. I can sit with Eric and get him through the worst and still have time to give back. We live in the world of Gd's creation and I hope to leave it in a better place than I have found it.

I am grateful for my wonderful husband and children. They help me define my goals in life. Yes even in the middle of the night I am grateful for Eric. He does make me rise to the occasion. I would like to add that G'd does give us more than we know we can handle, but how we step up to the challenge is what matters even if we fall short of Gd's expectations.

I am also very grateful for all my friends. You make my life so much easier.

I would like to know what you are grateful for in your lives. Please feel free to leave a comment.

It is beginning to get very quiet so I hope to be able to get at least a few hours of sleep this morning.